I’m currently going through the last pages of one of the best novels I’ve read (and I do read a lot – it’s another one in my long list of things that make our lives worth living):
The Master and Margarita by Mikhail Bulgakov (check out this book cover – how awesome is it?)
So this great book, among other super extraordinary things, features a very special love story between “the Master” and Margarita (don’t get too excited, the “Master” is just a master of his art, not a 19th century version of Christian Grey).
In her quest to offer the Master some relief from his life’s torments (I’m not going to go into details here, but PLEASE DO READ THIS BOOK), Margarita partners with the Devil (in a kind of a Faustian way). Which got me into thinking: what would I do for the people I love?
And especially when it comes to couples-love: how far are we willing to go to secure our partner’s feelings and ensure they are perpetuated in eternity?
Lana Del Rey, for instance, would be able to do things that I would never consider myself capable of:
When I was younger, I would say NO to anything that would mean (or be interpreted) as losing of my power. Not moving to London to study because my boyfriend could not follow – Of course not, move to London! Tone down irony and be more mindful to my partner’s feelings when I speak – Of course not, who cares about formalities! Learning to sleep with someone who snores – Of course not, ditch the loser! He wants to you to meet his family – ARE YOU CRAZY OR WHAT.
And then years went by and I turned 30. And I lost a couple of guys over some of the things mentioned above. And I’m now with a guy despite of some of the things mentioned above. And I’m actually considering sticking with this guy for some time. (Don’t worry Lana, you’re still winning on this one).
However, I don’t feel like there is a recipe. These are realizations that come to each one of us unexpectedly. One thing I’ve learnt growing up is that we cannot be too sure about ourselves. The do’s and don’t, the want’s and don’t want’s, are fluid concepts. There are of course some things that never change: I would never put up with violence. I would never let my happiness being ignored. I would never forgive the same mistake twice. I would never let anyone make me feel like I don’t matter.
But I would change my ways. And I would learn to let people in. And I would start to listen and think about someone else’s wellbeing as I do about mine.
And these are some of the things I would do for love. And ultimately, learn how to love.